It hit me. The mess on the floor, the grumpy attitudes. Where is the love in all of this? We finished out that homeschool day, we cleaned up the mess and we leaned heavy into the weekend. We just needed a weekend of family time. No agenda. No commitments. No have tos. No school subjects.
And we did. We went on a long walk on a winding trail in the cool of the fall morning. We played with LEGO® building sets. It was good to have that time to focus on enjoying. But I have also made a purposeful change. I have been asking the Lord to bless us. Because He has shown me in many ways this week “…you do not have because you do not ask.” James 4:2
I’ve asked him to bless our homeschool. To bless our family. To bless those we are praying for. And I have seen those blessings in abundance. In the small ways. In glimpses of success. In encouragement. In accomplishing much learning.
Monday morning we started new. I praised more. I patted backs. I made two ingredient pumpkin muffins for breakfast just for fun!
The Lord has promised good to me, His word my hope secures; He will my shield and portion be As long as life endures.
And that afternoon I attended the funeral of an extended family member. My cousins shared how her mother had brought coffee to both her and her sister when they were teenagers. Coffee, on a silver tray, first thing in the morning. They said that their mother would sit and talk over coffee as the day started. My eldest is a new coffee fan so I knew this would speak to her.
Starting Tuesday morning, I filled a nice, big cup of fresh coffee and I gently woke her. A few mornings, I had to attend to others. But she’s told me that she really appreciates it. That extra bit of love in a mug. And we are using all the favorite cups.
And that’s truly what the heart of homeschooling is. Loving these children, teaching them His ways. I’ve also made a point this week to ‘catch them’ loving each other. Interested in what a sibling is doing, helping little brother read, helping sister at the piano, working together.
More ways we show love to our children and encourage our homeschool:
- Me saying I am so thankful we homeschool – saying it out loud where all can hear. (Reminds me of the quote from the movie Elf: “the best way to spread Christmas cheer is to sing loudly for all to hear).
- Reading aloud during lunch.
- Playing cards after supper.
- Making someone’s bed in the morning as a surprise.
- Saying, “I’ll do that!”
- Hugs – more frequent and abundant.
- Setting a subject aside when a child is struggling. Doing a favorite for a bit and then coming back and facing the problem together.
- Saying thank you for all the help around the house.
1. Tapestry of Grace learning about Thomas Jefferson | 2. Swimming Creatures of the 5th Day Marine Biology (she says, “I love this notebook and the copywork!”) | 3. Reading Answers for Kids insert from Answers Magazine
- Saying I am proud of you! (My brother says he tells his children daily, “you are so smart!”)
- During prayer time, telling the Lord we are thankful for our Great Hodges Family (showing how very important our family is)
- Celebrating every day with the You Are Special Plate
- Using the nice dishes at lunch time (why not?)
- ‘Catching’ a child doing something nice and telling him or her ‘thank you!’
The incredible gift of the ordinary! Glory comes streaming from the table of daily life. ~ Macrina Wiederkehr
Even, at times, ignoring the mess – maybe even celebrating it because it means learning happened. Then pitching in together to clean it.
And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father by Him. Colossians 3:17
(One of the ways the Lord reminded me of the ‘you do not have because you do not ask’ verse was through the Real Refreshment Retreats Facebook page. The verse was posted there. You should like them on Facebook too, be encouraged and find out more about the retreats. Early bird registration ends October 15!)
Many thanks to our Friday hostesses!
- Collage Friday with Mary at Home Grown Learners
- Weekly Wrap-Up with Kris at Weird, Unsocialized Homeschoolers
- Homeschooling High School with Connie at The Daisy Head
In what ways are you seeing the heart of homeschooling in your home?